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Wednesday, April 28, 2004 I couldn't blog yesterday because my internet connection wasn't cooperating. I could sign into Yahoo! and AIM but I couldn't get onto any internet websites, or my email or anything until really late last night, but by that time all I wanted to do was talk to Chunk. So, there, I've an excuse for my slacking this time :-p *Very Long Parenting Story* Yesterday I had a pretty good day, nothing too terribly important happened. My daughter and I had a showdown last night, a power struggle if you will. She was refusing to go use the potty at first. She had done well all day and not wet herself once, and she even took herself to the potty without needing any help 3 times. After Charley had gone to bed, she started acting up for some reason. I asked her if she needed to go potty and she said very defiantly, "NO Mommy!". I checked her panties and she wasn't wet so I let it slide. I put on her favorite movie and she was very content in watching it. After a few minutes, I looked back and she was naked. I told her to put her panties and shirt back on and she screamed no again and ran and hid. I knew instantly it was because she had wet herself. So I asked her if she needed to go potty, and she of course, said no, and I asked her if it was because she already pottied in her panties and she nodded, and looked rather sheepish. We went to the bathroom and cleaned up, and I sat her on the toilet, and she actually did go pee pee a little so I praised her and put clean panties on her and let her go watch the rest of her movie. Some time later she started her demanding-a-drink-of-everything routine, and I told her that is not how she should speak to her mother, and if she wants something she needs to ask nicely. She asked for chocolate milk, and said please, so I gave her some. Not even 2 minutes later she was screaming at the top of her lungs for apple juice. I told her she could not have applejuice, because she had asked for chocolate milk and that would be wasting it. I looked around and didn't see her cup of chocolate milk anywhere. This was when I lost my cool. As a sidenote, in Illinois, we have a major ant problem. Any minute speck or crumb, or droplet of anything sweet causes them to flock by the millions to my living room. So naturally, when the kids spill stuff on the floor, I freak. And Hollie really does know better. When I couldn't find her chocolate milk cup, I was envisioning it sitting upside down somewhere slowly leaking syrupy chocolate milk all over the floor and a bazillion ants swarming it. So, I admit it, I yelled at her. I yelled at my daughter, giving her ammo to yell back at me, If Mommy is yelling than it must be ok, right? I snatched Hollie up and sat her in the loathed time out chair. She was crying so pitifully. I caught myself and realized I wasn't handling this situation in the most mature way I could. And, I felt horrible for yelling at her. I let her sit her 3 minutes in time out, and then asked her to come talk to me. I sat her on my lap and explained to her about the ants, and the cup etc. We said our sorries to eachother, hugged, and kissed. She found the cup, which luckily had been upright hiding behind the television, and politely asked for apple juice instead of milk. I allowed her to have apple juice, on the condition she let me put her pajamas on (she refuses to be clothed a lot of the time, and rips her clothes off seconds after you put them on her) and she agreed and let me put sweatpants and a pajama top on her. Then I gave her the applejuice and she layed down with her favorite blanky and calmed down. During this entire fiasco, I had been talking to Chunk on Yahoo, in a voice PM. I realized when I was dressing Hollie, that he had probably heard the entire escapade, because I had left it on hands free. I was mortified, and I wondered what kind of Mother he would think I was for yelling at a 3 year old. When I got back to my computer, I saw he had typed a message to me that was very sweet. He basically said he liked how I took a escalated situation and turned it into a peaceful one. My heart really melted. Yes, he had heard me yell, but he didn't judge my parenting based on that, but the situation as a whole. That's one thing I really love about him. He isn't closed minded, he will step back and take a look at the big picture in all things. He is a very peaceful person, and I truly believe he will be a very important asset in our family. Kelie → |
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